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An End to an Intriguing 2015 Purposeful 2016 and Beyond!

Nyaradzo Nyari Mashayamombe
Nyaradzo Mashayamombe receives the Human Rights Defender Artist of the Year Award from Zim Rights for the song Cry which features Chiwoniso Maraire

The year 2015 has been truly eventful. One which we are willing to put behind and cross over to the new year, 2016. The past year hasn’t been so easy, many tests were thrown at me but i want to believe however, that i pulled through. Such is life, they say what doesnt kill you, makes you stronger.

A quick mention of the goodness of the Lord; Other than the challenges and privilege to continue fighting for the rights of the girls with Tag a Life International #TaLI, i had my own self to develop and personal projects to pursue. At work, we managed to train more than 300 Community Peer Educators, more than 500 young people and 76 Teachers in the Midlands Province and also assist survivors of rape to get services, as well as Celebrate our 5th Year Anniversary through introducing Child Rights Awards called TCHRAs.

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For leading such an initiative, God granted me the grace to be recognized by 3 institutions in the form of awards. Zimbabwe International Women’s Awards (ZIWA) honored me with the ‘Community Champion Title of the Year’ in September 2015. Then StarFM Zimbabwe went on to recognize me with the People’s Choice Humanitarian Award2015 on December the 4th.

Lastly but not least, Zimbabwe Human Rights awarded me the Human Rights Defender Artist of the Year Award for the Song ‘Cry’ which i sang to raise awareness on the rights of the Girls and Young Women especially around Sexual Abuse and Child Marriages in Zimbabwe, highlighting the fact that, the perpetrators against girls are often the people that we know. This song also features the late Chiwoniso Maraire.    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6achBH-P3AU

Inspite of all the challenges that we faced this year, this has been to encourage me and my team, to strengthen us that no-matter how difficult things may be, the Lord who has commissioned for this work will see us through if we continue to put our trust in him.

TaLI also turned 5 this year and we made the next five year Strategic Plan for 2016 to 2020 after an evaluation of the work that we’d done over the years. To our partners HIVOS, US Embassy and PEPFAR, as well as Individual Friends of TaLI my work would not have been possible without you. To the dear sisters who held my hands and brothers who stood by me in my work through thick and thin, i say the journey has just begun, lets keep fighting for the Human Rights and Social Justice for Girls, Young Women and our entire communities.

For personal development and projects; i’m forever grateful for the strength God gave me to begin to pursue my Masters Degree; Master of Science in Development Studies Degree.

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The greatest happiness for me has been the recording and release of my Music Album #Zvatiri which is a celebration of my own life as a black woman, who was born in a world where natural beauty is distorted by the infiltration of skin bleaching and magazine model type of a woman’s beauty which causes a lot of damage to girls and women. The black women particularly are made to apologise for their beautiful pigment of their skin that is chocolate, the curves of their body which many pay millions for and the strength of their voices which often thunders the African Jazz melodies.

The talks about the African Beauty, Love, Gospel and social issues such as girls and women issues. http://www.financialgazette.co.zw/nyarie-mashayamombe-releases-third-album/ .  The Album has since received a lot of coverage including BBV Africa. https://www.newsday.co.zw/2015/12/19/nyaradzos-album-scoops-human-rights-award/ . It is also available on iTunes and CD Baby.

What this year has taught me is that one does not need the assurance of another person to pursue what one cares about or their purpose because, some people will doubt you, others will insinuate hateful things and challenge the core of what you care about if you are not careful, you may begin to self-doubt. Most importantly, there are those who really do not care about what you do, who can have bad intentions and shallow such that they can trash everything that you’ve ever worked or poured your sweat for, but in all this, we are strengthened by what we believe.

It is the liberating that we do what we do not for human beings glorification, but for the greatest call, they may seek to take advantage, but you will prevail! Here is to a conquering and wonderful, prosperous, healthy and happy 2016, whatever God blesses, no man can curse!

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Why i Speak Out..

I’ve had to suppress how i feel sometimes, i’ve seen things that one would think are obvious and yet to many they are not. I live in a culture which celebrates evil over good, a culture that to a large extent has rewarded those who can manipulate others, systems that do not work for the justice of the deserving you name it. At a very young age i leant to address inequality, unGodliness usually that has befallen girls and women. I’ve seen inconsistency in treatment of girls and boys, and at a younger age i learnt to question that, but a large extent i really did not know what i was doing (a story for another day).

For the first time i’ll tell you how i feel about one of the most important issue that is dear to me, to many young girls, young women and even our mothers! In my opinion the reproductive health and sexuality of women has never been about them, its really been about men.  Had it been reciprocal, that the girls’ bodies be for the men and the men’s bodies be for the girls, as is required in the bible that i believe, i would not write, i would be VERY quiet, because there would be equality, everyone would be happy!! Many girls and young women have been oriented to do it for the men, never for themselves. But young boys and men can do as they feel like, well never for the women.  Its the same man who can trash the girl he marries and yet all her life she’s been trained to play it good for ‘the men’, her future husband! I talk to a young girl who is so scared to talk or open up about this issue, i am addressing it anyways! It has taken me a lot of thinking, a long time of accepting who i really am, well i’m called to speak for the Girl Child who will never admit that this is a problem for her, because she is trying to play it good according to what society expects of her! Society expects us girls to play in nice and safe, never to complain or voice what seems not right.

I’ve come to appreciate and live with who i am, i am who God has called me to be, to be the voice to the voiceless especially the girls and women and anyone vulnerable in my community, to be the comfort to those in need, and hense ‘nyaradzo-yangu’, (my comfort to you)!. I come from a religious background which expects me to be a ‘good girl’, and the definition of being a good girl from my religion often means ‘Do not speak out or question inequalities or oppression and violation of girls and women’, violation under the premise of bad doctrine, that teaches the girls to be sooo good such that, when a marriage fails its said to be her fault. Therefore she will try as much as possible to be the ‘good girl’, against all odds. At that point the man can cheat, bash her, violet her, and the tetes(aunts), the pastors and mothers sometimes will tell her to hold on! You’ll be told to be submissive to the husband who often does not know what love is, or laying down his life for his wife, meanwhile, this is believed to come from the bible that ‘woman ought to submit’, and thats what it is!! Well to the woman who’s held on and prevailed, i thank God for you, but am speaking of the millions who’ve suffered domestic violence, poverty at the hands of oppressive men, some who’ve died as a result of domestic violence, some who’ve suffered torture and abuse, those are the ones am speaking out for!

Well i deliberately made this my very first article on my blog because this issue is too close to my heart, and i believe that is exactly one of the issues that will set the world free, that will honor God and promote truthfulness, because as it is, the world is failing at marriage because it is teaching a short changing doctrine. When i grew up i had issues with marriage, until i had the most liberating preaching of one of an elderly pastors who had visited my church then. I silently grew up a girl who watched a lot of things happen around girls and women. I realised how women were soo oppressed that marriage was never an attraction to me, i viewed it as a sick prison which women enter and then either die silently or loose themselves. It was all under the thought of this what most of the church today have termed ‘submission’. I heard this more than i heard about love, about men laying their lives for their wives as the bible commands, for me the greater than SUBMISSION!!.. Well this pastor taught me the scripture as it says. Eph 5: 22-25 says; “Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing[a] her by the washing with water through the word”(the greatest submission which the church should teach to the men if true salvation is to fall upon the families)..,

He taught about what submission is for a woman and love is for a man, and that that is a circle, the two go hand in hand, you do not demand one and leave out the other. When a wife submits a husband should love, that on its own is not difficult in my opinion. The hardship comes when a wife is expected to submit and them man does not love, which is maybe a large percentage of these marriages, and one wonders why there is such violence and hatred, there is toomuch demand from women to perform and little from men, and society has gotten away with that. But is that the standard that should be, a big NOO!

So let me break it down right here right now. For me i am not keeping quiet at the expense of pretense and watch women’s lives be ruined. As a young woman it is God’s order if i want to get married, to do so, but not to any jack, not to any jerry, but to a man who fears God, in the truthfulness of fearing God. Who embraces truth, who does his part. I will not marry a man who is selfish, who expects me to submit and does not love me or lay his life for me. i am better off as a Jewel in God’s eyes if i kept myself forever rather than fall into the hands of an unworthy man who does not respect me as a beautiful creation of God, as one who’s made in the image of God and one who is equally a human being like him. I will marry a man who acknowledges justice and equality of human beings, a man who treasures me as the creation of God, and man who will adore me and love me to bits, that man will not demand submission because it will come naturaly. Let me continue this a little later, i just wanted you to hear my heart out.. I shall speak out, i shall not stoop law, Not in this life, never!!