Scandals are for Women, Men can laugh them off!!

So i’ve been following this Sex Tap Scandal by two Zimbabwean men who are said to be in Capetown. When it broke out early this week i did not really take part in it. As usual such scandals i take my time to study what is going on, assess the facts and the situation and if i have to speak, then i will speak. I often seen everything in Gender Lenses its amazing.

I want to believe that even though i live in Zimbabwe, i usually do not poke my nose into the business that doesn’t concern me, like homosexuality. I am fairly travelled, i see homosexuals around me, just as they see me and nobody really cares, unless its something that we have to engage on a personal note just like human beings, like working together, or if we are friends etc, thats besides the point. I am trying to say i am a person who really doesn’t care about someone’s sexual orientation because i respect other people as much as they respect my own sexual orientation, its really each to their own, i don’t really bother myself, for the most part, i seek to understand and embrace, and as a christian, i often live everything including my own struggles and life to God.

Today i’ve been bothered and i will have to write about it. It has come to my attention and understanding as i follow the whole scandal of the two Zimbabwean Homosexual men that, one of them is said to be married . The proof that i have about this guy being married came from himself alleging that ‘I was intoxicated on the day ‘i was drugged’, followed by his utterances that he is ‘homophobic’, and that he is a married man with 2 kids. The allegedly married guy’s(one of the homosexuals in the video) name is Exeter Godfrey Mudyiwa on this Facebook profile. The disturbing side to the story is that of a photograph circulating of him with a woman, many of which are being circulated with the face of the woman ‘protected’, some not.  The other partner who is alleged to be in the video is said to be one on Facebook-Profile  and it is not clear if it is him since i have not heard him addressing this issue directly, unlike Exeter Godfrey who i saw responding directly to some one Socialite’s Thomas Cstzzle Chizhanje’s wall where he invites Exeter to address the issue.

It is at this wall that i got really pissed off by some Zimbabweans. One member in a Facebook group that i am part of posted about how Thomas was going to interview this Homosexual guy Godfrey, who is actually Heterosexually married, about the video.  The alertness in me caused something not to sit well with me on hearing about the ‘interview’. Zimbabwe is full of scandals. I have to be clear that i call this a scandal because; 1. They recorded their sexual act which is supposed to be private, 2. They distributed or caused to leak, or where careless to cause their illegal material to leak for the consumption of others, which is a violation of other people and am gravely concerned about children having access to that porn material since many kids below the age of 18 have access to phones and can access such materials, 3. The fact that this guy admits to being married to a woman and yet goes around having probably ‘unprotected sex’ with the same sex, THOSE CONDITIONS MAKE IT SCANDALOUS, YOU CAN ADD YOUR OWN ANALYSIS!!.

My question is scandals happen everyday especially in women, nobody bothers to give them a fair interview, the social media in Zimbabwe, including the main line news, reports about it often in an ugly manner on hearsay and at that point society will have judged the woman and her life would have been destroyed already. On the other hand, these homosexual guys’ story who is married to a woman has been neutralised. Zimbabwe does not see this as a scandal enough nor the cheating as a need to shame, and name it loudly, in the H-Metros of this town, on the radio stations etc. The question is why? Why has this not made real news? Is it it’s because its men caught up and maybe we can’t allow men scandals to really be out there? Maybe we can’t! I have heard women in some groups saying, ‘we do not want to name and shame the married guy because we will expose his wife’. But wait a minute, who ever cared when women were caught up in scandals, that the husband would have to be protected? The society would come out blazing ready to shoot the woman with the man as a victim! They will go after the woman with everything they have to shame the ACT, to keep women ‘where they belong’, to make them good girls, so that the rest of the other women will learn that you do not engage in scandals. But how about men, they are allowed to do whatever they want. Actually when they are engaged in scandals we make them heroes, we provide them spaces to ‘meet the people’, and be heroes, for people to listen to the nonsense, why? because they are men, they can do anything? SHAME ON SUCH BEHAVIOR!!

Zimbabwe keeps showing me that patriarchy has buried us including this generation! We are so buried in it that even women have been nurtured and modelled in such a way that, they will punish other women for their sins, and women will pay severely! But the same men will commit worst sins but society will laugh about it, will dismiss it, will look for an opportunity to be ‘addressed by the perpetrators’ in denial that a ‘man can really be caught up in such cheating and shameful act of recording a sexual ponographic material’?

What i am challenging Zimbabwean news to do is to report fairly and equally, to bring out societal ills from both men and women the same way. To let children know that people are equal thus men and women, they are capable of making the same mistakes, and that a society’s rules and norms must be equally applied. If a society does not allow certain behaviours among its citizens for instance cheating in marriage, it should be for everyone. It must apply to both women and men! We should not give unity for men and punish women alone. We should treat women and men the same as equal human beings. Women MUST be freed to look at life with fair lenses, and that freedom begins with media equally covering stories and addressing societal issues the same way. Media coverage mustn’t be to silence women, to punish women, to label women or to put them in boxes while men are let loose.

As i end this article, my heart goes out to the wife of this ‘cheating-homosexual guy’. I pray that she has economic independence to move on from this kind of trauma and abuse of being double crossed. I am worried if she is safe from diseases. No one human being should ever have to deal with this. The temptation to the sister who is married to this guy would be to stick around and present that she supports her husband when in actual fact she might just stick around for economic reasons at the expense of her own health. I say if its you sister, move on you are still very young. To the young men who were caught up, it is a crime to record your sexual explicitly almost anywhere in the world, do not abuse other people as you make your choices. You have the responsibility to respect other people by making your sexual episodes private just like everyone else, you abused thousands if not millions in that ponographic video. You also have the responsibility to not abuse others like women in the process, and there is nothing heroic about this, its shameful!. And to Zimbabweans, lets not be complacent, let our yes be a yes, our no be a no, lets practice equality for all human beings. Men are no better than women, if you are going to frown upon scandals, make it be for everyone, both women and men!

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Audit #HarareHospital NOW What is Rate of Survival??

While #Afrophobia’ is taking place in South Africa, there is a huge issue that Zimbabwe is not talking about which should concern all of us, concern all of us very FAST, and its urgent, it can’t wait, it makes me sick, and enxious, and furious, and think that this is the end of the world. It makes me feel helpless, it makes me vulnerable and makes my people also vulnerable, its an issues thats worrisome and we should all be worried! Its the issue of HarareHospital! My heart cries out, i am in pain, God help!! I am calling for an urgent look into the situation in public hospitals such as #HarareHospital, where people are dying like crazy!! My heart cries out.

The day before Easter last week i went together with our team to visit one of our staff members’ sister was admitted there. She had told me that earlier on her sister had refused to go back to #HarareHospital because prior to that, she had spent sometime there. When i visited the lady in the hospital, i could not stand the environment. I wondered how people were surviving there. The atmosphere is not one of healing, but takes the very life from you. She was admitted in the ward in the last floor and i was told that she is also waiting for a bed downstairs where the environment was better. While i spoke to the lady i saw life in her, she was talking and we spoke at length until the time for us to leave and we left.

While i was there i reached for tissues in the hospital cause i could not swallow my own saliva because of the smell and just the situation in that ward. I said to myself, this is why this lady wanted to come back home. The next day i had a conversation with the sister and i said, i think you need to bring your sister home and maybe get some help from doctors or just get medicines for her to heal at home, i think that environemnt is not good for her, it takes the very life from her. Lo-and behold, a week later she passed on. I was confused, i felt robbed and i said lives are passing for no reason, we could do better. i cried in my heart and yearned for a better Zimbabwe whose children have access to basic health.

Fast track a week later, i was phoned yesterday for a relative who was said to be at Harare Hospital again. I thought it wasn’t serious, i think i got into denial, i didn’t want to imagine their pain or the surrounding environment where they were living. Just today my brother called me and told me that our relative had passed on. I am from the funeral and i said £@£?£$%£$& man! I said this country could do better for its people. The level of neglect and the cost for basic survival processes like a scan costs US$600 and because of the nature of this hospital where everyone comes from low income earning communities, where can people get such amounts of money? I got supper pissed listening to the ordeal of the deceased from the time they took him to the hospital last friday to the time of his death this afternoon.

That death again could have been avoided if resources where availed. Basically there are huge complaints about #HarareHospital that there is need for an urgent audit of service at that hospital! It seems as if anyone who goes there doesn’t come back alive. The environment is not life giving but draining, you literally have to fight for your life to stay alive but many are dying. Some say they are not getting drips even. I am shocked, this is the highest level of suffering and it has to stop! Can someone do something for Harare Hospital Please and all the public hospitals!! Can we have an audit of lives that survive in the hospital viz-a-viz lives are admitted. What is the survival rate at #HarareHospital?? Please help real fast!!

#NoXenophobia #SpeakOutXeNOphobia !!

#xeNOphobia has harnessed our bothers and sisters and time is now to act!

Each and everyone of us must be bothered at the welfare of another human being, you are reading this message now, you are a human being, you can also be passionate about Justice and Human Rights if you are not yet that. While some of South African Citizens’ issues are genuine for instance the issues of illegal immigrants and their impact on lawlessness and other issues, South Africa MUST remember that its own liberation came as a result of it getting help from other African countries, therefore it does not have to quickly forget that.

We have witnessed brutal burning of our brothers and sisters alive, this is not acceptable on every level. Our Presidents have also not prioritised this and their silence is deafening! We need to raise our voices quickly and now.  Zimbabwe, Botswana, Zambia, Malawi, South Africa, Nigeria, Uganda, Kenya, Ethiopia whereever you are in Africa, rise against this barbarism. Lets ask our Presidents to speak and shun this evil, South Africa MUST be reminded by someone that it is our brothers and sisters who have contributed to the building of that ECONOMY, it is their sweat as well.

Many of our countries especially Zimbabwe has given South Africa millions of dollars in their exports and this is how they pay us back! When Apartheid tormented South Africa, Africa was there and so was the rest of the World, SOUTH AFRICA YOU CANT FORGET, It is fooling of you to do so!

I am suggesting a Twitter campaign, to speak against #Xenophobia and immediately ask our presidents to Act! People’s Social Media’s walls are blazing with anger especially Facebook at this injustice by some of our ignorant South African brothers and sisters who either take part in this brutality, killing and burning of our people alive, or those who just stand and watch and do nothing!   Lets translate our anger into something tangible.

Lets say #NoXenophobia #xeNOphobia. Rather than just vent with nothing to show for it, each time you write something on Facebook and twitter concerning xenophobia, please hashtag #NoXenophobia or simply #xeNOphobia to speak out against it. Lets tag our local media, news papers,  local radio stations, televisions, international media houses, celebrities and this is the the power we have, the power to speak out! Lets utilise social media for change, get posting, get hash tagging! We are the change that we want to see,  Save the life of someone through twitter or phase book, use  #NoXenophobia !!

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What is It to You? It is The Year of The Lord For Me!!

As the Christian tradition, many Christians engage in seeking and searching for God in this beginning of the year and others started right at the end of the Previous year. Mostly they are seeking to establish their year and seek for God’s guidance in the New year. It is from the understanding that ‘Our Help Comes From God’, who knows our purposes and what he has in store for us. I personally have started on this journey for this year. There are things that God has already started showing me, things of Greatness and His Purpose upon my life. I will tell you that my year kind of started with a bit of a heavy heart. This was as a result maybe of the fact that i didnt take a leave working on the case of the touts who stripped a woman. I read on one of my colleagues’ wall of an article that said ‘Do not Take things Personally’, well for me with this kind of passion that i have for girls and women issues, i need to find a School to teach me ‘How not to be Personal’ about personal issues in one’s life eg girls and women’s issues.

I want to just declare a few things and to share as i see it and feel it in the spirit. For me what this year is ‘Is the Year of The Lord’ in my life. My Pastor @Tom Deuschle Declared that this year is the Year of ‘Divine Grace’, my spirit said YES when we had the Cross-Over on the 31st and i say it for this year. Greatness is my portion, Prosperity is my potion, Deliverance is my Portion, Love is my Portion, Good Health is my Portion, Favor is my Portion, Blessings are my Portion! Every purpose of God in my life this year MUST come to pass. So should you declare and take time to seek God(or the Higher power that you believe in).

You have to note that these things will not come easy. The devil is going to try to take Your Peace, To Try and Lie that You are a Failure, He will try Get your Glory, He will try to make everything that you do seem to amount to Nothing, He will try and take away from your Relationships, He will mess with your Faith and Hope, he will try to throw fear your way, and doubt of yourself. However am here to say that the word that i believe, of God says; ‘The Enemy comes to Steal, Kill and Destroy, but Christ came that we may have life, and life in abundance, When the enemy comes in like a flood, the Lord will Raise a Standard on our behalf, He will vindicate us my friend, What the enemy intended for evil, The Lord turns into a blessing!

Many years ago my pastor preached and shared a word that; ‘When a Big and Great Door of Opportunity pens, Great also is the adversity and resistance that you will suffer, but know that this is of GOD! Do not be moved, do not be shaken, Declare that You will not be brought down covered by his blood! See Grace doesnt care whether you are correct or not, it doesnt care whether you are right or wrong, it seeks to cover and protect you, as a child of God. That is the kind of Grace that will carry me this year and beyond. A grace that fights your battles, a grace that says Not by Might nor by Power, but one that says it is by the spirit of God. A grace that causes you to laugh at such when thrown your way.

I have for a long time believed my life to be like that of David, and so it is for any of us who believe themselves to be with a purpose in their lives, he had an assignment, however there was Soul, who was there to chase him, to become a pain for him. However David loved and knew God, he was the Psalmist, he was in love with God, he walked with God and therefore his ways were established and protected. That is the cry of my heart this year, to be protected and loved of God, to depend on him and know that my existence comes from him. I desire to write my own Psalms inspired by my own walk with God. When we walk the walk of faith and love ‘you will not be shaken, you will not be moved’, rather you press towards the mark of the High Calling, you gain Boldness and will not be afraid to say the Truth.

See success in your life cannot be without those who seem to want to bring you down. Often successful people are fueled by those who seek to take them back, and are fueled to go forward by such as seek to undermine their effort, or those who have jealousy tendencies. That means you have something huge the world does not want you to bring out. Sometimes you are prevented, or blocked, what it means is God is saying ‘this is not your path, or this is just a detour, or there is a better path than you want to be stuck in a non productive place where you are not appreciated, or God is wanting to teach you a lesson maybe of Patience, of Resistance, or of Withstanding Pressure.

One way or the other, for those who are wise there is always a lesson. Do not take it with a failure attitude, but rather sometimes know that your impact is felt which will bring different results from different sections of life. Sometimes you are being taught to introspect as a person, to learn humility, sometimes to be able to address with boldness and truth, guess what, either way you are defining who you are. In all these circumstances, come out and prevail a successful person. Reflect and ask God what this all means.

My declaration which i believe is that, “This is The Year of The Lord’ for me, whatever i have asked God for,i shall get as i have already received. It is the year of Greatness. God is in control. We may go through the fire, we may go through everything, but we prevail successful and strong. One of the Leadership platforms that i’ve been recently taught me that ‘There is nothing called failure, you are simply supposed to learn the lessons and move on’! So when you think from that view point, nothing really is to be afraid of, nothing really can bring you down, Lets Go Forth and WIN!

I will part today with this Scripture; Psalm 23, it is my scripture for the year.

Yours Truly N.!

P/S In this season you shall be hearing more from me as i take this walk.

We Raise our Voices and Speak Against Stripping of Women, No To Abuse!!

Just when we had seen another horror of a woman whose video had circulated being humiliated by her in-laws, Zimbabwe and the rest of the world woke up to the shock of their lives when the video of a lady being stripped by Combi touts/Community Omnibus Touts at 4th Street Terminus circulated on Social Media. It was horrific to watch such inhuman treatment of a woman from grown up men.  We took to the Radios, Press, televisions and Social Media to call on the lady to come forward so that her case would be opened. We also engaged the Police, and other stakeholders to make sure that the case would be treated with the urgency and respect it required.

Now that one person has been arrested in connection with this case, our job is not to be silent. As an individual together with others who are like minded, my job is to remain vigilant, to remain focused to see to it that the rest of the touts get arrested, that we also push for stiffer penalties for the perpetrators. Again many friends have called that we make sure that the lady is prepared for the courts and as TaLI we have also made sure that we provide Psycho Social Support as we continue together in this journey.

As we remain steadfast for the rights of woman and girls, i will take this opportunity to honor those men who are protecting women in their communities. I particularly want to pay tribute to the gentleman who shielded the girl in the video throughout her traumatic experience when she went through the abuse. These are the partners we want to work with. Issues of violence affect all of us both women and men.  In the last week or so we saw many Zimbabwean men frowning and condemning abuse of women, stripping of girls, some ready to come and find the touts themselves. I do hope that this case provides a total change, overhaul in the way women and girls are treated and protected in our societies. This case must show Zimbabwe that every Zimbabwean has the right to choice of expression, a right to choosing what they like to wear, it MUST let people realise that women are human beings just like men, with their own bodily autonomy.

Also as i finish on this piece, want to thank every Zimbabwean, both men and women, who have supported this move as we assisted the lady to come out and report her case. We rose, We help a Press Conference, we went to the radios, to the news papers, meetings were held, partners came together, the police continues to do its work, We support them. I had an opportunity to talk to the lady, she wants justice, justice MUST be done, we support her, Justice must prevail on this case, so that no other woman or girl goes through the similar experience again!

So to the touts, and anyone who is abusive, we say STOP IT! I say STOP IT! Let every human being enjoy their rights without hindrance from anyone. Until next-time dear folks, NO TO VIOLENCE IN PUBLIC AND PRIVATE SPACES!!

NyaradzoYangu!

Unbelievable Hypocrisy on ‘Patrick’, The Patriarchy They Chose !

So i’ve been in church services where they said ‘men are moved by what they see, that men are more sexual than women, that when a man looks at a woman most often they are aroused by how they look’. They are very clear to say that ‘Women on the other hand, are not sexual, do not think about sex, are not moved by what they see, that they do not want sex, that as long as you give the woman money she is good, she doesnt want the sex that much’.

This society taught its sons that you need not worry about satisfying your women cause they can do with little sex if at all. The BIGGEST MISTAKE my society made is that they told their boys that they can have sex with whoever they want whenever they want, without taking stoke, so much that they go home and forget to satisfy their wives. Women have had to live with that kind of suffering for a very long time. Well let me break it down for you all brothers who do not want to take responsibility, and you sisters who are in denial. When a woman sees a wrongly and provocatively dressed man she is moved, but she looks aside. When you move around with your chest bare and your shorts too tight as a man, know that you are offending some women somewhere. Just that they were taught to pretend its not happening. Just as much as you are moved by a wrongly dressed woman or a provocatively dressed one, women actually do feel things. This like you, doesnt just go for a man who is provocatively dressed, women are also moved by well dressed hot looking guys! The same way you do. Just that our fathers taught our mothers to teach us to look aside, and YOU on the other side, were allowed to express your sexual feelings and were refused your responsibility to look aside, therefore countless times you’ve sought to justify your refusal for responsibility through rapping women and children hiding behind their looks most of the times.

Zimbabwe this week woke up to a very nasty and rude awakening, that told or taught them that actually Women Need Sex! That they equally want it just as God created it. And that if the man do not avail themselves to care for their wives sexually, women will look elsewhere. Now if you think what i’m telling you right now is rude and makes you angry, i’ll tell you right now that you need to GROW up, Face to reality, know that we are no longer just living in Zimbabwe but the global village. A village which will allow women to know their rights and dues including Sexual Rights! I belong to a number of various women Facebook Groups and Boy women are talking Sex like it was work, like it was Sadza or the air they breath, they are talking sex like they think about it everyday. And honestly, women and men are blessed with the gift of Sex, one which has to be respected, a gift which noone should withhold from another or think they deserve better than the other when they are married. When a man and a woman come together they are married and blessed with sex to make them one. Unfortunately for a long time our boys have been taught that ITS OK when they break that covenant and be intimate with someone else, then come home and pretend like it doesnt matter, and then fail to sexually satisfy their wives because they are getting it somewhere else. I bet you see you’ve been proven wrong?

The shame that was brought by Patrick’s relatives over Patrick shall remain in our memories for a life time, and for allowing his sisters to think they are embarrassing that woman, even his children shall see the video and when they begin to use reason, they shall see that their father failed them, that he failed to satisfy mommy just like he was meant to. They recorded their brother’s wife and her relatives thinking they are doing her a de-service, but in truth they just proved to the world that their brother failed to satisfy Faith and therefore Faith went ahead to buy sex. What violence is that? We are always telling you women are violated everyday and some of you refuse to open your eyes to reality, did this event knock some sense into you? How many men who cheat did we see treated like this? Then why women? If your mind still tells you that women deserve this kind of abuse for cheating, when you are actually the biggest cheat, you dont deserve to be on this earth, you simply do not think! They should be ashamed of themselves. And also another shame as patriarchy taught us is that when a woman fails to satisfy her husband, the husband is ‘justified to go out and get some’, so true then with this situation, this brother failed us. He failed a Sister and ‘We are Aggrieved’! This guy caused a situation and he should man-up and apologize to the nation for making a sister hungry to the extent of looking outside! Isnt this is what we are taught? So Lets Deal with it!!

On the other hand, women are cheated on everyday, and the same way man are also being cheated on everyday! Question is, is this the best way Zimbabwe is choosing to deal with infidelity? Are we as a society settling for naming and shaming? So then ask yourself dear reader if you are a man, how many millions we are then going to see everyday of these videos on men on their banded knees in kangaroo courts begging for forgiveness? Sisters i think we should also seek to make anyone who cheats pay, and as it turns out, men do this the most! So Harare, brace-up for so much drama! I would have thought Patrick to deal with this amicably, and protected his wife, engaged ‘vakuru'(adults) as we are taught in our culture and deal with this with maturity. Now the whole town knows that Patrick actually has been failing to fulfill his conjugal duties and his wife went out. Its a SHAME! He should have refrained his sisters from this stupid behavior that is so abusive of Faith’s family of recording that video. They owe her!!

If all you know for solving problems as a man is violence, you are just too weak! If all you know for intimacy with your wife is forcing yourself on her, you are a shame to men-hood! Lets man-up and seek advise. Lets treat women as equal partners and human beings who deserve happiness. Let this society learn that women actually are equal human beings who have similar needs and feelings. We are different, but absolutely equal!

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ABRIDGED TOKWE MUKOSI REPORT ON THE STATUS OF GIRLS AND WOMEN – CHINGWIZI GIRLS

I have so much mixed feelings today. Yesterday i visited Chingwizi Holding Camp(My Long Story Coming up in a beat in a blog) where the flood victims of Tokwe Mukosi are housed. It was a FACT finding mission following the report that about 100 girls had been impregnated between the ages 10 and 12. Those in Zimbabwe who’ve been following this Chingwizi story know that over the last 3 or so days, the place has been ‘a war zone’, with the alleged fights between the residents of Chingwizi and the Police. Inspite of warnings for us not to go during this time as there have been these fights, we could not wait to stay home without knowing the status of girls at this camp. So we took off on Friday to reach the Camp on Saturday the 2nd of August. I will share my abridge version here with a special interest in the Girl Child and Women issues. I will hasten to say that, because of the tense of the situation, we could not engage many people to talk about anything in the camp. We managed to interview at the school and outside the camp and the following were our immediate findings:
1. The area is under so much tension, with fights between the police and the people. My worry is the security of girls and women. It seems the men are involved in the fights, but women and children often are at the receiving end of this violence. On our way we saw troops of hundreds of Police Men in the bushes close to the road that leads to Chingwizi. Today we got reports that there were further beatings of locals, the women and children are obviously emotionally tortured in all this.
2. Upon entering the camp there was such tension; in my write up i called it ‘tension thicker than a knife could cut’! Everyone was in their tents, no one loitering around, contrary to the usual busy roads at the camp on a good day. This was said to be because the previous day, the residents had allegedly burnt down 2 police cars. The reason being reported for this was that the police wanted to move the clinic to the area where the government wants people to settle, but the people are demanding their money before they move. A few minutes into the camp, men started coming out of their camps and started asking ‘Have you brought us the money’… We quickly left the camp as we feared any time the tensions would rise. We headed for Mlali Primary and Secondary Camp School.
3. The survival situation in the camp has affected the children, their parents and the community badly. The general conditions have caused the attitudes of the children towards education to be bad. The parents also because of the life in the camp are said to be no longer strict with their children to enforce discipline and performance at school. Actually there are reports that there is sometimes conflict between the teachers and the community because the teachers find it hard to instill discipline as the community does not want the teachers hard on their children, therefore the children end up being expelled from the schools. There is confirmed primary and high school drop out of children by students we interviewed. IT WAS DIFFICULT TO CONFIRM PREGNANCIES AMONGST THE AGE GROUPS WRITTEN IN THE REPORT, but the young people we interviewed who are in the community and schools confirmed that they had been hearing grapevine about some girls who have fallen pregnant, but they could neither provide names nor ages. One of the young man we interviewed alluded to the fact that there are high cases of Inter-generational relationships, where girls date older man, who are bound to demand sex in the relationships. The boy also said that because of idleness in the camp, sexual activities amongst young and old seem to be the only activity to occupy residents.
4. The young people highlighted their fear for disease outbreaks such as sexually related as all they see are issues of relationships in the camp. They also mentioned that they feel like their education year has been a wasted one sinse they were disturbed. One young person said that they are looking forward to repeating their form 3 again next year because they feel they are not ready to move and pass their O’levels.
5. Because of the situation in the camp, we could not talk to women as the situation was so much tense and guarded. Also residents do not trust anyone who is from the outside as they either suspect you to hinder their demand for money from the government, so they do not openly talk to anyone. Another thing is that they are sensitive to what people talk about, so it was not an easy task to carry. The teachers we spoke to at the school seemed to talk under instruction from their ministry, therefore there was not much useful information we got from them regarding child enrollment. The lady teacher who was said to be the spokes person declined the fact that children had dropped out of school. This was contrary to the information we got from the students we later interviewed who were very clear that many of their friends and pupils had dropped out of the schools before the End of Term Examinations and soon after the examinations. They alluded to the lack of discipline in the schools amongst the students. It was easy for us to read between the lines as one teacher told us that ‘if you need information you go to the Provincial Head, thats where we send all the information’, in a dismissing manner. It was very easy for me to tell that indeed maybe there is information ofcourse its being sent to the offices and as rightfully protocol would demand, they cannot share it, and it is protected for share at the appropriate time.
6. Food
We were told that everyone got equal rations according to the family members. The issue of ‘Sex-For-Food’ was said to have been reported in the first 2months.. Other commodities are distributed the same amongst the residents.
7. Education Facilities
The facilities are in the camps and are as would be expected, bad for the children.
TaLI RECOMENDATIONS:
We strongly feel the need for the government to address the situation at Chingwizi. The Government and the Residents of Chingwizi should amicably address their positions for the sack of the children. The lives of Children are being messed during this hard time. Girls are falling pregnant, are vulnerable to diseases, their education is affected, their lives are being lost, the children’s lives will never be the same again. There are more than 2 000 children in this area, thats a generation that deserves our move fast! We owe it to these children to give them a fair chance. We are concerned of the health of the women in this area. Something which the young men said which touched my heart was that; ‘When we were staying at our own house before the disaster, my father used to go drinking then come home later, mother never used to see him with other women, now the sad reality is that i see my father drinking beer, and do other things, i am concerned about my mother’, this is from the heart of a young man aged 17 who witnesses the abuse of his mother. We are appealing to the government to regard the children especially. May the children have their lives back. Surely there is somewhere we could get the money from our budgets for the sack of the children’. PROTECT THE CHILDREN, ADDRESS CHINGWIZI ISSUE NOW!!

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